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Author of The Secret Life of Clutter, psychotherapist, designer and one of the UK’s most well-respected clutter experts, Helen works with her clients holistically to uncover what their homes reveal about their psyches and what is blocking them. And then, with compassion, take positive action to clear those obstacles. This leads to life-changing shifts, which leave people with a new-found clarity and homes that support them to live their best lives
Hello Reader, "I've sorted my side of the house, I know exactly what needs to go, but my partner won't let me touch their things." I hear a version of this from clients all the time and what I've noticed is that these disagreements are rarely about the stuff. Each person has a need that hasn't been named: calm and mental space for one, perhaps safety, continuity or a sense of identity for the other. When those needs collide unspoken, the argument ends up being about the objects themselves,...
Hello Reader, Have you ever started decluttering, felt motivated for a while, and then watched the progress you made quietly fall apart? Or walked into a beautifully ordered room and felt, if you're honest, a bit flat or even bored? If either of those sounds familiar, it's probably not a willpower problem. It's personality. I am fascinated with understanding the psychology of our homes, it is even the title of the introduction to my book The Secret Life of Clutter. One of the most widely used...
Hello Reader, Delaying a tricky conversation doesn't make it easier. We all know this is true. And it also applies to pretty much anything we are avoiding because it may be hard, painful or challenges what we know. The status quo feels safe because it feels familiar. Like the proverbial frog in a pan of water that is slowly heated up, we will tolerate things that become gradually less comfortable; situations that we’d jump straight out of if we were put directly into them. Whether that’s a...